Can't we choose a more convenient time to grow old?

[Mouse9]

Well, I'd say my trying times (I mentioned them on my birthday thread) started during the summer when I moved to CO and still didn't have a job. But. Okay. I thought. It's my time to take it a little easier. Yes. I think. But it is harder than it sounds. I'm use to having a job to go to. School starts and I help with my kiddos school taking in money for the books and supplies. I even go to a PTO meeting (I accidently missed last months). I'm not usually a worrier but I was wondering if I must be since it is in the back of my mind all of the time.

I probably gained another 10 pounds this summer. (Even with all the walking my husband and I did during the summer months.) I have been eating healthy, but probably too much. I take multivitamins and I don't drink more than a cooler every once in a while. I drink one pop a day, but not everyday.

Then I started that female stuff and it seems fine. I stop. Then I start again and it is longer and only two weeks after the last. I start taking some natural herbal stuff that says it is for premenopause women seeing menopause symptoms (sp?). Anyway. I stop. Then a little less than two weeks later I start again. It goes the regular route and I am off again. I'm new to the area. I just got my insurance policy again. I don't know what doctors I can use or know any of them either, but finally I confide is a new friend at work and now have a name of a doctor who is also a female. I will call her on Monday to see if I can get an appointment.

I was just hoping to put off these hot flashes for a while. At least until I have my 3rd graders into their regular schedule. It would be even nicer if I could get the appointment after school hours instead of having to take a half day off school.

Anyway. Believe or not. That is everything in a nutshell. (A longer version would include how my third graders are almost all very needy children and they or so impulsive some people would say they are hyper. I know they aren't. They just need consistant, firm, and caring discipline. but it takes a lot of my energy to keep being consistant, firm and caring.)

[Gabby]

I'm sorry to hear this is all hitting you so hard.

:hug2:

Not a good way to start your next decade, eh?

[pocket]

It's a time of life that happens to everyone, and you never know if there will be problems. Don't hate me, but other than a few hot flashes, I zoomed through. Seeing a doctor is the first step to deal with it all. She may have a method or medicine to help you. Once you're free of all this stuff, you'll find it's a great relief.

[Slitter]

:hug2: Mouse. If you need commiseration, just say the word. I am a just few years younger than you and have been doing the wonky period thing for awhile now. You just haven't lived until you go for 6 weeks without stopping! :crying: There are some longish stretches with nothing which would be rather nice if you weren't waiting for the payback you're sure is coming. You'll learn pertty quickly if you haven't already never to be caught unprepared.

I've been lucky with the hot flashes - at least so far. Only a few spaced well apart. I don't know how you prepare for that except maybe by dressing in layers so you can peel down when you need to.

Good luck and hang in there. :hug2:

[Virgo6]

Boy, was I lucky! I am 59 and never had any of that stuff. No flashes, sweats or any other problem. Done by 49. I also had an unexpected baby at 37 so I don't know if that helped or not. One thing I do remember experiencing through that time period was anxiety. Didn't last long, but still it was scary. I had a fear of traveling off the island. Sorry, things aren't so well for you now Mouse, but just take one day at a time and look for the good things to get you through it all. :hug2:

[Sunburntbeatle]

I have no words, just a hug....

((((((Mouse9)))))))

[Mouse9]

Oh, I'm sure I'll be fine. I'm also weepy at times and have to quickly divert my attention to other matters if I think I'm going to cry about it. Usually about once every four months I'm weepy around that time. Now I just have to think about something sad and I can feel the tears start to well. Luckily it hasn't been too embarrassing so far.

I know there are worse things out there that many people deal with everyday, so I feel like I sound like someone ungrateful to mention this. Seeing that I have gone through so many worse things I'm sure it will be fine some time.

I talked to my youngest sister and she says she is already going through menopause. Her doctor told her she was though she went in for back problems. She is 7 years younger than me so I guess I should feel grateful it didn't happen to me at that time in my life. I'm sure that timing would've been worse.


Thanks for letting me talk/type it out.