mel
April 13th, 2008, 04:38 PM
Thought I'd share. :)
The Proposal
The night of his birthday, March 26, we lay in bed and he told me that what he wanted most was for me to promise to spend the rest of my life with him.
It was not a proposal. It was a vow. And I was happy with it, knowing that I want nothing more than to be with him. He said he wanted all decisions to be made together and that we could start looking at rings and talking about what was to come.
A week ago Wednesday night, we were at the mall with the kids and he and Rowan split off and Cameron and I went the other way. Meeting back up, I walked past a jewelry counter and the sales guy says "hey, everything in this case is 50% off."
I stopped for a second and looked but then kept walking - but right then, Jeff came up so he looked, too. We found a nice 3 stone sapphire but we didn't bite. We did, however, talk about it at length that night and went home and did a lot of looking online. There, I came across a beautiful 1 ct. emerald cut sapphire solitaire.
Thursday morning, I woke up thinking about that ring and how I really felt it was the best choice for what I wanted. So at lunch, I sent Jeff a text saying "I've made a decision about the ring."
He messaged back, "what???"
Then my phone died.
I met Ronnie for lunch and sent him a message on her phone (I was going to Verizon after lunch to deal with my POS which has now been replaced) and somehow, it only got more confusing because he thought I was saying I had already gone and bought the ring. We worked it out that night when we got home and agreed to go ahead and get the ring... But then he was hedging. I just couldn't figure it out. First, he seemed like he was on board with all of it and then he started dodging, citing any number of things like that it was just too weird to buy an engagement ring online. But by the end of the night, he had reluctantly gone ahead and ordered the ring. I was suffering from a mixture of excitement and blinding confusion.
I had planned a birthday party for Jeff for April 5th at Portland City Grill for Saturday night at 7:30. I was amazed... Everyone showed up. That never happens with our group. We took up three tables since there were about 14 of us.
Much food and drink later, Ronnie asked me for some advice about a guy she was interested in and asked me to come to the bathroom with her so she could fill me in. We were in there for awhile and Angie came in to check on us. As I came back to our table, Jeff was standing there and he motioned to everyone to hold up their signs.
Perplexed, I looked around and saw everyone holding these large white signs that said "Say yes!" and "Please say yes!" and "Say yes already!" One said "RUN! It's not too late!" Another was all in Spanish.
Then I turned to him and he got down on his knee. It went something like "you've done everything to fuck this up over the last three weeks so just say yes."
I did, of course.
He'd been planning this for three months. So all of his reluctance was staged. In fact, there were so many white lies designed to throw me off the scent.
I was in shock. I still am, in fact. It just hit me about half an hour ago that I am getting married.
So... On that Thursday, the text message confusion was that he was at Gilt (a very cool, hip jewelry store on NW 23rd) buying a ring.
I have two engagement rings. First - the sapphire solitaire. Then the other is a 1940 diamond set in platinum and gold, surrounded by intricate filigree. I think I'll end up keeping the sapphire and trading in the antique ring for a band - but may end up having the sapphire put into an antique setting. Decisions, decisions.
We have tentatively set a date for October 25th and booked a location - but we aren't 100% sold on it yet. My dad's health is failing so we might move things up.
Either way... I am very happy and very, very lucky.
The Proposal
The night of his birthday, March 26, we lay in bed and he told me that what he wanted most was for me to promise to spend the rest of my life with him.
It was not a proposal. It was a vow. And I was happy with it, knowing that I want nothing more than to be with him. He said he wanted all decisions to be made together and that we could start looking at rings and talking about what was to come.
A week ago Wednesday night, we were at the mall with the kids and he and Rowan split off and Cameron and I went the other way. Meeting back up, I walked past a jewelry counter and the sales guy says "hey, everything in this case is 50% off."
I stopped for a second and looked but then kept walking - but right then, Jeff came up so he looked, too. We found a nice 3 stone sapphire but we didn't bite. We did, however, talk about it at length that night and went home and did a lot of looking online. There, I came across a beautiful 1 ct. emerald cut sapphire solitaire.
Thursday morning, I woke up thinking about that ring and how I really felt it was the best choice for what I wanted. So at lunch, I sent Jeff a text saying "I've made a decision about the ring."
He messaged back, "what???"
Then my phone died.
I met Ronnie for lunch and sent him a message on her phone (I was going to Verizon after lunch to deal with my POS which has now been replaced) and somehow, it only got more confusing because he thought I was saying I had already gone and bought the ring. We worked it out that night when we got home and agreed to go ahead and get the ring... But then he was hedging. I just couldn't figure it out. First, he seemed like he was on board with all of it and then he started dodging, citing any number of things like that it was just too weird to buy an engagement ring online. But by the end of the night, he had reluctantly gone ahead and ordered the ring. I was suffering from a mixture of excitement and blinding confusion.
I had planned a birthday party for Jeff for April 5th at Portland City Grill for Saturday night at 7:30. I was amazed... Everyone showed up. That never happens with our group. We took up three tables since there were about 14 of us.
Much food and drink later, Ronnie asked me for some advice about a guy she was interested in and asked me to come to the bathroom with her so she could fill me in. We were in there for awhile and Angie came in to check on us. As I came back to our table, Jeff was standing there and he motioned to everyone to hold up their signs.
Perplexed, I looked around and saw everyone holding these large white signs that said "Say yes!" and "Please say yes!" and "Say yes already!" One said "RUN! It's not too late!" Another was all in Spanish.
Then I turned to him and he got down on his knee. It went something like "you've done everything to fuck this up over the last three weeks so just say yes."
I did, of course.
He'd been planning this for three months. So all of his reluctance was staged. In fact, there were so many white lies designed to throw me off the scent.
I was in shock. I still am, in fact. It just hit me about half an hour ago that I am getting married.
So... On that Thursday, the text message confusion was that he was at Gilt (a very cool, hip jewelry store on NW 23rd) buying a ring.
I have two engagement rings. First - the sapphire solitaire. Then the other is a 1940 diamond set in platinum and gold, surrounded by intricate filigree. I think I'll end up keeping the sapphire and trading in the antique ring for a band - but may end up having the sapphire put into an antique setting. Decisions, decisions.
We have tentatively set a date for October 25th and booked a location - but we aren't 100% sold on it yet. My dad's health is failing so we might move things up.
Either way... I am very happy and very, very lucky.